Sassy Curls

Nothing to it, but to do it. – Dad

🍯🐝Hi Honey Bees! Happy Sassy Sunday!

It’s monsoon season here in beautiful Scottsdale, Arizona. Which has my skin feeling soft and supple and my curls full of frizz.

139 days left in the year. 90 days left for summer.

I finally feel like writing again and after I recap this year, you’ll understand why I needed time to get realigned.

January

Full of new possibilities and shaking off the unsettling past two years, I attended a meetup to create my vision board. I filled it with inspirational women, books, future home inspiration, and travel destinations.

I have it in my kitchen so I see it before I’m off to the races and look at it right before bed. I’ve already accomplished and attracted certain things I so thoughtfully placed on my board.

Also in January, I walked in my first runway show. I am usually backstage during runway events working media, assisting with styling and models. It definitely was a thrill being runway model. I am currently in retirement, but open to this experience again.

February

New York Fashion Week. Yes, you read it right. I flew to New York City during NYFW. I was only there for two nights and three days, but managed to get a taste of the Big Apple. It was also during this time, I finally got excited about fashion and creating content again. I was already looking forward to going back in September. Then March came and put many of my ideas and pursuits on hold.

Sassy Sunday: NYFW Winter Whites

B is for Brooklyn

SassyCurlsTV 🗽 NYFW Vlog Part 1 – Junior’s Cheesecake, Stolen Swag Bag, Breakfast at Bubby’s

SassyCurlsTV 🌉 NYFW Vlog Part 2 – Brooklyn Bridge, Streetwear Fashion, Snow Day

March

I have a dry-erase calendar in my living area. It breaks up the year in four quarters. I write birthdays, holidays, and upcoming events here. My weekly/daily planner I keep more detailed, but this gives me an idea of what to look forward to and reminds to plan for these moments.

After a work week, my Fridays are usually spent at home curled up with some food and Netflix. Sometimes, I’m even in bed by 8:30PM.

Friday, March 11, 2022 – 11:05PM

I woke up to missed phone calls from family, but finally answered a FaceTime to receive the worst news in my life.

Dad died.

What?! I was going to call this weekend. I recall saying.

Flew home for a week of bereavement. I hadn’t been back in my hometown in over a decade. Visually, not much had changed, but my outlook on life did.

As much as I mentally prepared for losing a loved one, nothing prepares you for the real thing.

I returned to work, prioritizing what needed to get completed to finally come home, crawl into bed, and privately release all of my emotions.

That was the first quarter of the year.

April

My birthday month and a birthday I didn’t feel like celebrating. My brothers and I went to the Van Gogh Immersive Experience and we ate at Modern Market.

May

Friday, May 13, 2022

Dad’s funeral.

Which added another layer to my grief. It also brought family and friends back sharing stories about how my Dad inspired them. There were stories, I had never heard before about how powerful of a leader my Dad truly was.

It was here, that I promised myself I’m not mincing my words anymore and I’m definitely not letting anything hold me back from what I what to achieve. Still struggling finding joy after losing someone I loved so much. My Dad sacrificed all he had so his children could succeed. Things that I cared about, just didn’t seem important anymore.

I haven’t done much reading this year, but I did manage to listen to Finding Peace in Sadness by Aubrey Lawrence on Audible. This book helped me find the words for my grief.

I recommend reading or listening when people stop asking about your loved one because they simply no longer know what to say. She writes about how to move forward with your pain.

June

I was invited to be a guest speaker for Thee Creators Meetup. I spoke about how I make social media work for me, old narratives I no longer believe in, and about being in the moment.

Father’s Day I went to watch Top Gun. My Dad retired as a Captain in the Air Force at Holloman Air Force Base. The original Top Gun was our family’s favorite movie. The second one didn’t disappoint. I know my Dad would have enjoyed it.

July

7/11/22 I launched TiaraDeahn.com. Intertwined with managing my grief and work, I started taking acting classes. I was already signed up in early February and attended my first class at the beginning of April. I’ve had an interest in voice acting ever since I did a reading for the Therapy Tree.

I put on my vision board a picture of a white yeti mic, as a reminder to pursue this new endeavor of voiceover. My new site will focus on hosting, voiceover acting, and creative writing.

Follow the journey on insta.

August

There are 17 days left this month. I am taking two acting classes, restarting a workout program, and attending the Lagos Phoenix Fashion Week show. I’m getting dressed by one of the designers, so I’m excited for that.

I also have a Sunday brunch with some girlfriends, donating items I no longer need, getting my spare room in order, and rediscovering my flow.